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Crumpet's avatar

Excellent writing! I find that the older I get the more I am irritated by the complete lack of Parental and Societal preparation and guidance provided to navigate this life.

Still, due to early experiences, I've never felt completely 'at home' here on the physical plane and have been awaiting death since I was young.

One thing I also note is that I wonder if mid-life is when the dues begin to be paid - I am in 'rude health' because I have been diligent (and lucky). I have always eaten well, exercised and cultivated moderation and self-discipline.

A lot of people wonder where their diseases of affluence and comfort came from when they reach their 30s and constantly speak into existence how their back and knees are in terrible shape.

People who had sedentary childhoods are also on course for falls and fractures in their 40s similar to 70 yr olds now due to lack of bone density being laid down early (Wolff's Law).

I do believe we reap what we sow.

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Erik's avatar

I'm actually really enjoying mid life. Right now I'm monitoring my daughter playing wildly with her Barbies. In an hour I plan to head out to my homestead project and finish some attic wiring. This evening I promised to cook rotisserie bbq chicken with my dad. No shortage of things to do.

From your writings, I can tell that you live in an urban area, are childless and could be in better physical shape. I would argue that those three factors have great bearing on the midlife transition. The good news is that they can all be changed, if one wishes.

In my 20s I had an ego loss experience on the drug salvia. It literally felt like I died and came back. I think this helped me view a "career" in engineering as just a phase of paying off debts and accumulating skills rather than something ego attached. I was able to get into working out at 30 and change from skinny fat to ripped. Counter intuitively, the challenge of fitness is all mental. The less real you feel your body is, the more you can push the weights.

Now that I have some economic freedom I'm just focused on making things better in this physical place for the people around me. I can see how this blog is your way of doing this. I would challenge you to pull some of your creative energies out of the metaphysical realm and redirect them into the physical. I think you will find that things like health and fitness are much more plastic than they seem.

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